Mar 17 2012

Ups and Downs

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Ups and Downs

When writing a blog, it’s often tempting to write only about the good stuff… the ‘ups’… the ‘positive’ stuff we think will help others. It can be embarrassing for readers to know the blogger is going through a ‘bad’ spell, that they’re less than perfect, that they may appear weak. Bloggers often feel ‘negative’ posts give the impression that they don’t have it all together. They’re vulnerable.

At least some do. We all want to appear strong and in control. We certainly don’t want others judging us! That’s a very uncomfortable feeling.

Life isn’t like that however. There are always ups and downs. That’s just the nature of life.

Since my last post (so long ago I’ve almost forgotten), I’ve had many ups and downs, although I must admit that there have mostly been ups! But, inevitably, there have also been downs. It’s impossible for me to go back and remember them all, but I want to make a commitment to blog more about the downs as I’m sure there are many people reading this that share the same roller coaster.

My journey over the past year or so has been a process of learning about my self. Consequently, there have definitely been ups and there have been downs. My life has held many wonderful and many not-so-wonderful moments – very similar to you, no doubt. I’ve not always been proud of my actions or in-action, so remembering those times and coming to terms with these ups and the downs has been a process for sure.

However, in this process, I have been fortunate to have the support and guidance of the Mastering Alchemy organization. More specifically, I now have a Play Group of four other MAers (others who are participating in the same Mastering Alchemy Level 3 program). We meet on Skype every week and spend an hour or so chatting and discussing our week and our experiences as a result of the current week’s session. It often surprises me that one or more of my Play Mates has experienced something similar to my self.

Our experiences, although similar, are rarely exactly the same. We’re following the same course of “lessons”, but, as individuals, we have our own life experiences which filter our perspective and frequently lead to a different conclusion.

It’s the moments where our experiences match that I find the most encouraging, especially if it’s a ‘down’. It’s not that I want others to feel miserable, it’s knowing that someone else shares my experience that’s important. When I hear someone else has had a down (the same as me), it makes me feel better about my self. I find it easier to accept my self somehow.

I think we all tend to think we’re the only ones who feel the way we do. Personally, I feel inadequate when I don’t ‘get’ something. I feel as if there’s something wrong with me. “Why can’t I do that?” or “What’s wrong with me that I feel this way?” or “I must be stupid (incapable/incompetent, etc.)” I often feel like a failure.

Of course, it’s important to know how to deal with these downs. It doesn’t do us any good to wallow in these feelings, so in addition to sharing some of these not-so-good times, I will share the tools I use to overcome them… the feelings of failure and inadequacy, for instance, in later posts.

In the meantime, it’s encouraging for me to know there are others who have experiences similar to my self… especially the downs. By blogging about mine, perhaps knowing you are not alone and knowing someone else shares the same ups and downs, I can make the downs more acceptable for you, too!

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3 Responses to “Ups and Downs”

  1. Nicole de Foyon 23 Mar 2012 at 10:10 am

    My first visit to you blog…not surprised that you may be under the weather yourself….aren’t we all? You are human and there has to be a dark side in order to be able to identify the positive….courage.

  2. Cathyon 31 Mar 2012 at 3:02 am

    Aha, learned!

  3. […] I posted about life’s Ups and Downs. Since the majority of bloggers usually post about the Ups, I said I would share some of my Downs. […]

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